Early on in their flourishing romance, Tobi-Jayne Cadbury’s new partner, dashing SAS hero Christian Craighead, mentioned he had an ex-girlfriend who was a dentist. ‘That’s all he said, and I didn’t give it any further thought,’ she recalls. ‘She was just an ex who happened to be a dentist.’
Not for long. Because within a few months of that conversation, as a criminal court was later to hear, that same ex – Army officer Major Jennifer Wilson – had become a monstrous presence in 37-year-old Tobi-Jayne’s life.
After discovering Tobi-Jayne’s and Christian’s relationship, she became so consumed with hatred that over the course of many months she terrorised her with abusive and threatening messages from dawn until the small hours. Among them was one that read she wouldn’t stop ‘until one of us dies’ and she called her a ‘fat c***’, a ‘chicken s*** slag’ and an ‘uneducated slut’.
In an ongoing campaign of psychological warfare that brings to mind the disturbing Netflix hit drama Baby Reindeer, Wilson also bombarded Tobi-Jayne with naked photographs she had of Christian – a decorated officer whose name is a pseudonym to protect his identity – which she also sent to his 300,000 Instagram followers.
She created fake social media accounts in her rival’s name, from which she sent abusive messages to herself, hoping that the ruse would convince police that, in fact, it was Tobi-Jayne stalking her.

Tobi-Jayne Cadbury, 37, started fearing for her life after receiving terrifying threats from her boyfriend’s obsessed ex-partner
Her obsession was so all-consuming that Tobi-Jayne feared for her life. She still does, for, last Friday, 42-year-old Wilson was spared jail after pleading guilty to harassment and malicious communications at Aylesbury Crown Court – a decision that Tobi-Jayne brands ‘a huge let-down’.
But she reserves her greatest ire for the Army who she accuses of ‘closing ranks’.
‘I feel they have let both me down and Christian who, let us not forget, is an SAS hero. I asked them for help and they ignored me.
‘It is despicable she can torture someone in the way she did and they seem to think it is OK.’
Major Wilson was given a community order and has to undergo 100 hours of unpaid work.
A small consolation is that she has been given a lengthy ten-year restraining order preventing her making any contact with the victim, although Tobi-Jayne believes that even this will not stop her.
‘The police have said they don’t think she will ever stop, and I have to accept that,’ she says quietly.
Notably fragile, Tobi-Jayne, a slender blonde, fights off tears for much of our chat, and confides that she has been in therapy for months. ‘I’m anxious about sleeping alone if Christian isn’t there, I no longer socialise as I worry who is around me and if a car is behind me for too long,’ she says.
She is also reluctant to go into too much detail about her personal life. ‘Because I’m giving her more information,’ she says.
‘She already knows so much about me, and I won’t give her any more ammunition.’
What she will say is that while her surname conjures up images of vast family wealth courtesy of the great chocolate dynasty, she is only distantly related to the Cadbury family.

Dashing SAS hero Christian Craighead. Army major Wilson’s relationship with Christian lasted four years, during which time he had learnt she was married

Jennifer Wilson, 42, was spared jail after pleading guilty to harassment and malicious communications – a decision that Tobi-Jayne brands ‘a huge let-down’
A lawyer who works for a practice in Worcestershire, Tobi-Jayne’s life changed when, three years ago, she was introduced by mutual friends to Christian, an SAS soldier, now 47, who in 2019 earned a Conspicuous Gallantry Cross after fighting off Islamic terrorists who stormed a hotel in Nairobi, Kenya.
Love quickly blossomed between the two and in June 2020 their affair went public after the couple were pictured at a social event. ‘And that’s when the horror movie began,’ says Tobi-Jayne.
‘Except it wasn’t a horror movie, it was my life.’
At first though, she remained oblivious to Wilson’s presence in her life, which initially manifested itself via endless messages from an anonymous account.
‘They were quite nice messages at first, just stuff like, ‘I hope you have a nice day, smiley face’ but something inside me felt there was something off about them,’ she says. In fact, Wilson was also contacting Christian in a more malevolent way.
‘She started threatening to reveal all of his pictures, then creating fake accounts of him, uploading all of the pictures she’s ever had of him, and sending them to his 300,000 Instagram followers,’ Tobi-Jayne says.
‘He messaged her asking why she was doing this, asking her to stop. And I’ve seen the emails that she sent him, which were saying: ‘I will f***ing destroy you.’
It was at this point that Tobi-Jayne learned more about ‘the ex who was a dentist’.
Wilson’s relationship with Christian lasted four years, during which time he had learnt she was married. It ended in 2018.
‘Because they were in different army barracks, for a year Christian had no idea her husband existed,’ she says. ‘He loved her very much, and he was heartbroken when he found out. She said she was divorcing him but eventually Christian broke it off when he realised she was never going to. So it’s the ultimate irony really. She could have had him, but she didn’t – and she just doesn’t want anyone else to have him.’
After several weeks of bombarding Christian, Wilson turned her attention to Tobi-Jayne. ‘She bulldozed into my life under the disguise of 52 anonymous social media accounts,’ says Tobi-Jayne. ‘It was relentless. Every time I blocked one, a new account would appear, sending me more disgusting messages.’
‘You’re f****d Cadbury,’ read a typical one. ‘He’s using you, you’re using him.’ Others referred to Tobi-Jayne’s sex life and her looks. After six weeks of this, an exhausted Tobi-Jayne reported the abuse to her local police who in turn referred it to colleagues in Thames Valley, which covered the area of Wilson’s home address in Buckinghamshire.
Not long afterwards, in August 2022, she received a call from local police saying that they were holding Wilson at their station. ‘They told me she’d presented herself there, they’d arrested her, and police officers were on their way to interview her,’ she recalls. ‘I asked what they meant by ‘presented herself’ and it turned out she had driven two hours to report me for stalking her – at which point they looked on the computer and went ‘Oh, you’re wanted’ and arrested her.
‘This is how calculated she was – but it backfired.’
Police confiscated Wilson’s phone, which would later show screenshots she had taken of the ‘abuse’ she had received from Tobi-Jayne – that were, in fact, messages Wilson had sent to herself from the fake accounts she had created. In the interim, she was bailed pending further investigations. ‘And 24 hours after being released, she then bought a new phone and carried on sending abusive messages and naked pictures of Christian,’ Tobi-Jayne says. ‘I just can’t even put it into words how absolutely relentless and horrific it was.’
Again, Tobi-Jayne reported the offences to police, only to be thwarted by procedure – which required lengthy and involved investigation of phone downloads – and, on occasion, flabbergasting attitudes.

Tobi-Jayne and boyfriend Christian, who feel the Army ‘closed ranks’ and let them down

Major Jennifer Wilson seen outside Aylesbury Crown court
‘I remember one officer saying of the revenge porn: ‘We’d only really do something if it was a picture of a woman’ – as if that makes a difference,’ she recalls.
In November last year, Wilson – still on bail – was arrested again, this time at Gatwick Airport after returning from holiday.
‘Again they kept her for 24 hours, confiscated her phone and released her on bail,’ says Tobi-Jayne. They also raided her house, where they found hidden sim cards, including one in a picture frame. And once again, arrest was little in the way of deterrent.
‘She got another phone, and then she upped the ante. She started to put on her Twitter account she was being stalked by Tobi-Jayne Cadbury, and she would tag me in the post.
‘It got to the point where I was feeling paranoid – Christian had said how clever she was, and I thought, ‘What if she has actually managed to frame me?’
In tandem, Wilson was also messaging Tobi-Jayne’s friends with fake screenshots of unflattering comments. ‘With one friend of mine she made it look like I had said she was fat. And, even though I explained, you’re left with the sense that they maybe doubt you,’ she says.
Meanwhile, the chilling threats were still coming. ‘She’d message saying she had a gun, that she had been on my driveway,’ she says. Given Wilson’s Army involvement, Tobi-Jayne always feared her nemesis could lay her hands on weapons. ‘I was scared to open the door to a delivery man, worried it would be someone about to throw acid in my face.’
What’s more, with Christian frequently away for work, Tobi-Jayne was facing this largely alone. ‘I tried not to speak about it much because I felt bad for him. He couldn’t stop it, it’s not his fault. So a lot of the things that happened, to this day, he doesn’t know about them.
‘I knew I just had to sit it out until the police had gathered the information they needed from the mountains of phone data, which takes time.’
Tobi-Jayne says the Army offered little help. ‘I emailed Jennifer’s chain of command, basically reporting her, making it clear she had released sensitive footage and images of a member of the SAS, as well as indulging in stalking behaviour. I was told they were taking no further action. I was flabbergasted. I feel like she used the Army as her protection – and they let her.’
Wilson’s behaviour was also escalating: Tobi-Jayne would wake to messages sent at 6.06am calling her abusive names – ‘clearly her alarm goes off at 6am, and the first thing she did was attack me,’ Tobi-Jayne says wryly.
Wilson started to contact members of Tobi-Jayne’s family, too, sending abusive messages to her mum, sponsoring her niece on her GoFundMe charity page, and messaging her brother from a social media account posing as a journalist to say she was ‘doing an expose’.
‘It was her way of showing she could get to every little corner of my life,’ she says.
Then, in April last year, police had the full download of Major Wilson’s data – and it made for even more chilling reading. ‘They found emails on Jennifer’s phone to private detectives that she had instructed to follow me and Christian for four months,’ she says.
‘The scariest part is I don’t know when. I’m walking around completely on my own not realising 10ft behind there could be some guy tracking my every move.’
Wilson was arrested and charged with stalking with fear of violence and perverting the course of justice – the latter because she was sending messages to herself, pretending to be Tobi-Jayne, whose Twitter account was also cloned by Wilson.
The seriousness of the charges meant that she was remanded to Bronzefield women’s prison – once home to serial killer Rose West – ahead of her forthcoming trial, but was released after a month due to family illness.
‘When she came out she immediately got in touch, with messages along the lines of: ‘Watch your back, you’ll never get rid of me, I’m always watching’,’ says Tobi-Jayne. Finally, last December, Wilson pleaded guilty at Aylesbury Crown Court to two lesser charges of harassment and malicious communications relating to the revenge porn and social media messages.
‘I accepted that because I wanted the high probability of a prison sentence rather than the risk of a trial and having her walk completely free,’ says Tobi-Jayne.
As we now know, Major Wilson has been spared jail after three Army colonels gave her ‘glowing’ character references – something the presiding Recorder said ‘doesn’t happen often’.
Nonetheless, despite claims by Wilson’s defence counsel that what had unfolded was ‘essentially an internet spat that got out of hand’ – a claim Tobi-Jayne calls ‘insulting’ – the Recorder emphasised the grave nature of her offending. ‘It is serious because it is sustained activity; and it is serious because it has had a very serious impact on her, which is not surprising,’ he told Wilson.
‘It is very clearly a case of jealously due to the fact that she [Ms Cadbury] was in a relationship with your ex-partner.’
It is unclear whether Wilson’s husband is standing by her, but either way Tobi-Jayne cannot shake off the feeling that her ordeal is not over. ‘I worry that she’s got little left to lose,’ she says.
‘I’ve had to accept that she is definitely here to stay,’ she says. ‘Even if she doesn’t contact me she will always be watching.’