Influencer Lorna Luxe has been married to her retired banker husband John Andrews for 16 years – and they have a 21-year age gap between them. 

Talking about how they keep the spark alive in posts on social media, former air hostess Lorna has said she has some non-negotiables when it comes to romance. 

She said that when they first met, she wasn’t earning very much money as cabin crew and John would spoil her by surprising her with gifts at the end of their date.  

She said: ‘The first few months we got together and we went out, he would always give me a gift at the end of the date. 

‘Usually make-up, sometimes skincare, I think he is the reason I started using ceramide. I would always look forward to them at the end of the night. 

‘I was cabin crew then so I didn’t earn much money. I was allowed to take him on trips with me, so that’s how we dated in the beginning.’

Influencer Lorna Luxe, 43, revealed how she keeps the spark alive with husband John, 64 after 16 years: ‘He ALWAYS pays the bill, gives me gifts and separate bathrooms are a MUST!’

She said that when she and John first met, she wasn’t earning very much money as cabin crew and John would spoil her by surprising her with gifts at the end of their date

When they first got together, John surprised Lorna by purchasing their first home as a surprise. 

She said: ‘He was helping me flat hunt at the time and as soon as I turned up, I thought, I can’t afford this – and then he gave me a little smile and said “I’ve bought this for us” and that’s when I knew he was the one.’

He also upgraded her diamond engagement ring for a 15-carat version to celebrate 15 years together. 

The couple like to indulge in posh hotel stays and ‘dirty weekends’ in far-flung destinations. It’s all the more poignant because John has terminal cancer and so they are making sure they live life to the fullest.

Lorna said: ‘One dynamic in our relationship that has never changed is that he organises everything. I just have to turn up and ideally look cute. 

‘He’s been treating me like a princess since the day we met. I’m very happy about that. He will always find a way to surprise me, I could write a book on how John gets hotel upgrades.’

Lorna said that another way to keep the romance alive is for them to have separate bathrooms in their iconic Ghost House in Warwickshire.

She said: ‘I don’t know if this is an “us” thing, but me and John don’t share bathrooms. Maybe this is why we’ve lasted so long. He’s not even allowed in my bathroom. Just kidding.’

She said that other rules include learning one another’s love languages, saying John’s is ‘physical touch’ and she ‘always makes sure to cuddle him in the morning.’ 

Lorna added: ‘Never go to bed angry. It doesn’t matter how frustrated we are with each other, we always make sure we make up before bed.

‘It might be controversial, but I think it’s important to not be too lovey-dovey with your man. I show him respect but I am not too overly loving. I let him love me. 

The couple like to indulge in posh hotel stays and ‘dirty weekends’ in far-flung destinations. It’s all the more poignant because John has terminal cancer and so they are making sure they live life to the fullest

The couple’s love language is cuddles and gift giving and John upgraded her diamond engagement ring for a 15-carat version to celebrate 15 years together

Lorna said: ‘I don’t know if this is an “us” thing, but me and John don’t share bathrooms. Maybe this is why we’ve lasted so long. He’s not even allowed in my bathroom. Just kidding’

He also upgraded her diamond engagement ring for a 15-carat version to celebrate 15 years together. 

‘He is the one who has to worship me and not the other way around. What HE needs to feel is respected and supported and that dynamic really works for us.’ 

She continued: ‘Always look and feel your best. I always invest in looking good and taking care of myself. 

‘Me getting dolled up in the morning isn’t me worrying that he’s going to cheat on me if I don’t. You look good, you feel good – and when you feel good, you are just a better person. I always want to be a better person for John.

Lorna claims ’emotional independence, not financial indepedence from your man’ is key. 

‘You could have all the money in the world and be self sufficient but if you are relying on your man to be happy, you will always be miserable.  

‘Because he knows I am OK without him, it does kind of make him obsessed with me and that’s why he holds on so tight.’

The couple now co-own their fashion business L.A.Space which has funded their lifestyle over the last five years since it took off.

The couple famously ran up £300k debt to fund Lorna’s role as an influencer at the start and now they are reaping the rewards of their success, the couple have a joint account, but John will always pay the bill when they go out. 

She said: ‘John organises all our trips and him paying the bill at dinner is a non-negotiable for me. It comes out of the same bank account, but this way it feels like he is stepping up.’ 

Lorna and John don’t have kids – through choice, not situation and she said ‘all our disposable income is spent on each other.’ 

‘We make a point to treat ourselves,’ she said. ‘Whether that’s a date night, or a gift or him ironing my clothes.

‘I think the reason why we’ve lasted so long together, is because we are equal partners in everything that we do.’